I have found that, for most people, getting started is the biggest hurdle to actually having the Other Talk. That’s why I’ve created a number of short stories, or catalysts, to help build your confidence and motivation to begin tackling the facts of life in the last chapter of life.
The Other Talk puts forward a comprehensive, pro-active approach to the various decisions and actions that need to be taken throughout the last chapter of life, rather than waiting for the next unexpected (although often predictable) crisis that can often tear a family apart.
Specifically, the Other Talk explores the four facts of life that need to be addressed
- Taking charge at the end of life (how do you want your kids to start taking over decision-making when you no longer can)
- Financing your uncertain future (how do you afford a period of unknown length and one which will likely include challenging surprises)
- Living in your home (if and when do you move to an assisted living facility)
- Getting the medical care you need (how and who will advocate for your medical needs)
The book concludes with a chapter on the Other Talk. Why your kids will love you for it!
Here's an example of the type of reactions you'll see:
"Dealing with my parents’ future before there are panicky late night phone calls or surprising overdue bills was a gift. I feel more prepared and so do they because questions that I didn’t even know I would have to answer have already been thought through by the people it will affect the most."
Below are 6 short articles that I hope can be your catalysts to begin thinking about having the Other Talk
For any family from any generation, the Other Talk can have a wide-ranging impact on internal family dynamics. However, for the Baby Boomers, there is an additional set of unique external factors that will inject further incentive to embrace the Other Talk. Read More...
One of the great tragedies at the end of life is that parents and kids often find themselves wiped out financially. In fact, one of out every three bankruptcies in America is caused by late-stage medical expenses. Read More...
I love driving, especially in my blue sports car, a Nissan 350Z.
I love the freedom of getting up and going whenever I want.
So when I contemplate the possibility that a time will come when I shouldn’t be driving, when my eyesight, motor skills and reaction time reach the point where I’m endangering myself and others inside and outside the car, I get despondent and depressed Read More...
A key component of the Other Talk is a thorough and realistic discussion of where you want to (and where you’ll be able to) live in your last chapter and how that can be accomplished.
For most Americans, the desire to live in one’s home is powerful and deep seated Read More...
Many people fear death because of the dread of pain and suffering, the feelings of abandonment and helplessness. A major tenet of this book is that these issues can be mitigated by approaching them as a family. Read More...
For many of us, the most challenging and sensitive issue that we will come up against in the Other Talk are the changes that we will experience in our last chapter of life. It is the reversal of roles between parent and child that is triggered when you reach the point, physically and/or mentally, where you can no longer operate independently.
In essence, you become the child and your child becomes the parent. Read More...